When Life Feels “In-Between”: Finding Peace in the Pause

There are seasons in life where everything feels slow; when motivation fades, inspiration disappears, and you can’t quite put your finger on why. You’re not falling apart, but you’re not exactly thriving either. You’re just… in-between.

As someone who coaches women to live fearlessly authentic lives, I’ll be the first to admit I’ve been in that space lately. It’s uncomfortable, confusing, and honestly, humbling. But it’s also where some of the most important inner work happens.

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The Truth About the “Slow Seasons”

Sometimes life isn’t actually slow – we are.

We confuse quiet with stagnation. We convince ourselves that if we’re not actively producing, growing, or achieving something measurable, then we must be “stuck.” But slow seasons often come right before growth.

Think about it: nature doesn’t bloom year-round. Trees rest before they sprout again. Seeds grow underground before breaking through the surface. Maybe this “in-between” is your rest phase before the next big chapter.

Still, I get it. The discomfort is real. You know there’s more inside you, you just don’t feel it right now.

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The Internal Tug-of-War

For me, it sounds like this:

“It’s summer, just relax and enjoy it.”
“But summer’s when I should be preparing for next season.”
“You’re being lazy.”
“You’ve lost your spark.”

That inner dialogue? It’s not truth, it’s shame.

We’ve been trained to measure our value by how much we do. Productivity equals worth. Slowing down feels like failure. But that’s a lie we learned, not a truth we were born with.

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The Social Media Illusion

When you scroll through your feed, it’s easy to believe that everyone else has it figured out. The highlight reels show smiling faces, thriving businesses, and seemingly endless energy. But behind every “perfect” post is a real human being who struggles too.

Even as a coach, I have days when I don’t want to get out of bed, when sitting in the sunshine with my dogs feels like all I can handle. I love my work deeply, but I’m still human. And part of being Fearlessly Authentic is letting you see that.

Authenticity isn’t about pretending everything’s fine. It’s about being real – even when that means admitting, “I’m not okay right now.”

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Redefining Success (For Real This Time)

Ask yourself this: What am I measuring myself against?

• Other people’s progress?
• My own productivity?
• An unrealistic version of myself that doesn’t exist anymore?

What if success wasn’t about doing more, but about being more you?

That’s the mindset shift I’ve been working on. For me, success right now looks like showing up for myself when I don’t feel like it, taking care of my health, and giving myself grace when I don’t have all the answers.

Grace doesn’t mean lowering your standards, it means recognizing that your worth doesn’t change when your energy does.

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Awareness Isn’t Always Easier

I’ll be honest: knowing all the mindset tools, going to therapy, and being emotionally aware doesn’t make hard seasons easy. It just makes them clearer.

When you understand your triggers and patterns, you can’t ignore them anymore. You can’t pretend you’re fine. You have to face the discomfort and choose healthier ways to navigate it.

That’s hard work. But it’s the kind that leads to freedom.

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The Problem With Checklists

For years, I lived by checklists. Productivity meant progress. If every box was checked by the end of the day, I felt successful.

Now, as an entrepreneur, I’ve had to unlearn that thinking. Some days, progress looks like rest. Some days, it’s one email instead of ten. Some days, it’s simply showing up.

The truth? Life isn’t a checklist. It’s a rhythm. Some weeks are high-energy and inspired. Others are slower, quieter, and less certain. Both are necessary.

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The Culture of Constant Achievement

We grow up being rewarded for doing, not being. From the first day of school, we’re taught to chase perfect attendance, grades, deadlines, goals.

As adults, that turns into chasing productivity, money, and status.

But in other cultures, the focus isn’t on what you do, it’s on how you live. Family, rest, joy, and connection are celebrated. There’s room to breathe.

You don’t have to abandon ambition to embrace balance. You just have to stop letting hustle culture define your worth.

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Challenging the Beliefs That Hold You Back

So many of our limiting beliefs weren’t born from our own thoughts, they were inherited.

Family. Society. Religion. Culture.
All of it shapes how we see success, work, rest, and even self-worth.

You can honor where you came from and still rewrite the story. You can choose beliefs that align with who you are now, not who the world told you to be.

Call me a dreamer, but I believe the most fearless thing you can do is question everything you were taught about what “should” make you successful.

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Identity in Motion

Life is one long process of becoming.

Right now, my identity is shifting again: wife, entrepreneur, soon-to-be mother, woman in her mid-thirties still learning how to rest without guilt. It’s messy and beautiful and ever-changing.

Your identity will shift too. Over and over.

Change doesn’t mean you’re lost. It means you’re evolving.

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Your Safety Net Is You

As kids, our parents were our safety nets. As adults, we get to build our own.

That net looks like routines, self-care, boundaries, therapy, movement, prayer, creativity. Whatever helps you feel safe and grounded. And when there are holes in it? You patch them with self-trust.

You are your own safety net now. And you are strong enough to hold yourself.

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The Fearlessly Authentic Takeaway

You don’t need to have it all figured out. You don’t need to be “on” all the time.

Right now, it’s okay to be still.
It’s okay to question things.
It’s okay to not know what’s next.

Because this “in-between”? It’s not wasted time. It’s where clarity begins to form.

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You don’t have to rush your way to purpose.
Sometimes, the most powerful thing you can do is simply be.